Posts Tagged ‘bullying’

“Goin’ huntin, today”
He said, with a chill.
As he hunkered right down
At the top of the hill.

“Mark my sight, load my gun,”
Was the last phrase he said,
Before he picked ‘em all off
With a slant of his head.

Refrain:

Goin huntin, goin’ huntin
Goin huntin again..
Now they’ll know cuz I’ll show them
all
how they’ve been (to me)

“Hear them scream, watch em scatter!”
He yelled with delight,
“Now they’ll know that I matter
When the news hits tonight.”

“I’ll be famous, be noticed!”
He cheerfully gasped
“No more teasing
or bullying
or touching at last!”

Refrain:

Goin huntin, goin’ huntin
Goin huntin again..
Now they’ll know cuz I’ll show them
all
how they’ve  been (to me)

“Oh my God!” cried the townsfolk
As the story was heard.
“Who knew he was troubled,
damaged, disturbed?”

“Not his dad”, they pondered
“Not his dad, of course”
“He’s been out of the picture,
Ever since the divorce.”

“Not his stepdad” they claimed,
“Not his stepdad at all”
“He spends all his money on
Sex, drugs and alcohol.”

“Not his mother,” they whispered
“Not his mother – no way”
“She’s too busy working
Twelve hours a day!”

Refrain:

Goin huntin, goin’ huntin
Goin huntin again..
Now they’ll know cuz I’ll show them
all
how they’ve been (to me)

Outgoing chorus:

So who is the victim?
Who can we blame?
For the boy and his “choices”
In this dangerous game?

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One of the main reasons I went into teaching, and focused my attention towards the middle school crowd, was because of my empathy towards this age group (11-13 yrs). This is the most tumultuous time to be alive and it can really set a child on a path towards happiness, positive mental health, self confidence and worth — or destroy every ounce of self confidence and self esteem they’ve had up until this point. 

I was a skinny, gawky kid in junior high. While the rest of the girls around  me were beginning to attract the attention of the boys, I was waiting for the day when I could actually start wearing a training bra. I endured all sorts of horrible, demeaning comments from both boys and girls – boys in public and girls in the locker room as we dressed for gym class. I remember very clearly the day I got rat-tailed on the elbow by a mean girl who was making fun of my physical stature in the locker room shortly after gym class. Not only did I have to endure the emotional abuse but the rat tail (a wet, wound up towel) hurt like hell and left a big bruise for several days afterwards. NOTE TO ALL: the words and actions of these kids when I was in junior high will never, ever, be forgotten. The psychological hurt remains forever.

I empathize with children in this age group, because I know what it is like to be bullied. I was bullied from 7th grade up until I graduated from high school and then long into my adulthood. I was picked on by other kids for a variety of things: I didn’t drink, smoke or do drugs, so I was called a “goody two shoes” by the crowd that did. I didn’t have sex, so I was called a “prude” by the crowd that did. I was a well-behaved student, so I was called a “teacher’s pet” by the lazy, misbehaving kids. I was called “carpenter’s dream” by the boys who had just discovered how much fun looking at girls’ boobs was. (Carpenter’s Dream: flat as a board, easy to nail, simple to screw)

It seemed no matter what I tried, or didn’t try, I was always the “odd girl out” and the target for numerous bullies. I imagine that, if the internet existed when I was a kid, I would have been cyber-bullied as well. Sadly, situations like these today often result in suicide. Kids have too much pressure on them to be someone else’s idea of “perfect” or, “friend-worthy”. They become severely depressed and feel they have no choice but to take their own lives. Heartbreaking.

But bullying doesn’t end with childhood. I’ve also been the victim of bullying from adults as well. And that’s what I want to bring to the public’s attention: BULLIES COME IN ALL FORMS, SIZES AND AGES.

bible_thumper_tshirt-p235486815632551276qd00_400Some bullies even come in the form of organized religion. Just look at all the stories and internet message boards of the deeply religious people and it is easy to see that bullying is still allowed to take place. The bullies disguise themselves as “followers of the truth”, wrap themselves in outdated, biblical scripture, then proceed to pass judgment and damnation on everyone and everything that doesn’t align with “their” religious doctrine. They claim they are just “doing God’s work”, as though God has hired them as His own personal squad of morality warriors.

HypocriteLook at the actions of the Westboro Baptist Church members. Look at the Catholic dioceses that demand their teachers obey their religious doctrine and not believe or participate in anything that could be considered contrary to their beliefs or they will be fired, while the clergy – the biggest hypocrites and offenders of God’s word–are allowed to abuse their innocent flock over and over again. And not get caught or held accountable for their crimes.

Look at the Islamic faith, the Jewish faith and the battles they engage in every day in Israel. Every single religious group out there that forces its own opinion on others and demands strict obedience to it at the exclusion of all others’ rights to believe whatever they want to believe or do is, in my opinion, nothing more than a big bully trying to control others’ lives. 

We have the right to believe what we want to believe, and practice whatever faith we wish to practice. But, we have a moral obligation to show respect for others’ opinions, feelings and beliefs – no matter if it’s in real life or on the internet. 

Social media is a powerful communication tool. It allows instant access to an endless stream of information. But, when used inappropriately and hurtfully, it becomes nothing more than just one more tool for big bullies to use on the cyber playground of life.

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